My eventful week!

So I have to share all the good news and fun I had this week. As many of you know, I have diligently been praying about what course of action to take with Jon. To go to court, or not to go to court...Meet with him...Do nothing. Over these last few months I have received so much love, support, and counsel from so many people I love and trust, it has really meant so much to me. So to all of you and you know who your are, Thank You! Well, to continue, over these last few months I have been taking in every one's advise, muling it over, and praying about the right course of action. Right away I felt that going to court was definitely the wrong choice, which I am grateful for because I am sure it would have only increased the tension and stress that is working over time in our relationship right now and would have been a financial drain on both of us. It also became very apparent to me that doing nothing was out of the question as well. I am not the sort of person to just sit around and do nothing for starters and further more nothing was going to change if I did nothing and I wanted things to change so badly for me and Nolan's sanity's sake. So just before the wedding I began praying about doing a sit down with Jon and discussing a revised visitation schedule that would work better for both of us. I wanted to meet my need of spending more then 5 days with my new husband and help Jon meet his need of spending more time with Maddie. This is something he has been asking for almost every other week. I felt right away that this was the right choice but the timing was not right just yet. However, I did feel strongly that I would know when the time was right and on Monday out of the blue I got a clear message that the time was at hand. So I promptly wrote Jon an email and asked if we could meet Tuesday night to discuss Maddie. So say he was shocked is an understatement but he was also very pleased. Anyway, after months of literal silence between us, because we only communicate via email or text, we were finally able to sit down together and have a rational discussion about Maddie and what is best for her and also at the same time what is best for us. In the end he agreed that I needed to be able to spend more time with Nolan and that he would let us(Maddie and I) visit Nolan for about 12 days every month if I would let him have her for a dinner every Tuesday night in return. I cannot express how grateful I am to have the Gospel in my life. I know everyday that if I live my best I can have the gift of the Holy Ghost and that he knows the best way to handle every situation and the best path for all of our lives. I don't think I could have done what I did on Tuesday alone but I knew that I wasn't and that made all the difference. What was even more wonderful was that I had such a strong feeling that what I was doing and asking for was the right choice that I felt almost positive of the outcome. It allowed me to walk into the situation feeling peace in stead of fear. I also believe that coming into the situation feeling so calm and collected helped Jon feel at ease and made him more receptive to me and the spirit. So now I feel beyond grateful to my Heavenly Father for hearing and answering my fervent daily prayers to have more time with Nolan, whom I just love and adore more then words can express.

Now on to my bit of fun for the week. Every Wednesday I have dubbed the National: I Am Going To Have Fun Day! Every week, usually on Sunday, I decide what sounds like a fun activity to me, and I make a plan and spread the word at church so that anyone who would like to join in on the National Holiday can. I try to rotate our activities every week so that one week we do something free and the next we do an activity that costs money. This last Wednesday I decided to take Madeline to Old McDonald's Farm because I had never been there and it sounded like something we both could enjoy. I told everyone I thought would like to go and we meet there around 10:30 that morning. Now I have to admit that maybe this was not one of my brightest ideas, what I mean by that is I probably should have checked to see how hot is was suppose to be on Wednesday before I chose an outdoor activity but I can do nothing about it now but live and learn. So me and three other mothers dragged our children around this large outdoor petting zoo and play land for several hours in I believe it was over 100 degree weather but we all survived and have great pictures to show for it. Enjoy!